There is a double standard at play here.
When a man is linked to multiple women over the course of a few years, heâs âan eligible bachelorâ and âa playboy.â
When 26-year-old Lori Harvey does it, sheâs loose, promiscuous and any other insulting thing people can think of to say about her as a means of discrediting her, dismissing her autonomy, and shaming her for her choices.
Lori Harvey is a grown woman who is allowed to make whatever dating decisions she wants
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Young, successful Black women like Sexyy Red can have babies if they want to
LinkSexyy Red is currently on her âHood Hottest Princessâ tour with dates all across the country, and she has been proudly performing with her baby bump on full display, and a lot of time, she is doing so without her shoes on, which is so cute to me.Â
The biggest difference between Sexyy, Keke, Cardi, Serena and the rest of us is money and resources.
Rappers, movie stars and professional athletes have money and resources that allow them to have children and continue their careers comfortably.
Young, successful Black women like Sexyy Red can have babies if they want to
Hello, November
November showed up in Los Angeles today, but she forgot to bring her homegirl fall with her.
This is not a complaint; itâs just an observation.
We are still having summer weather right now. When I think back on it, I feel like I have been wearing shorts for most of the year. We donât necessarily get seasons in L.A. the same way the rest of the country does, but we do experience some temperature changes and a bit of rain.
Right now, it feels like itâs been hot for months, and again, itâs not a complaint; itâs an observation.
Hello, November
Keith Lee exposes the bad hospitality at Atlanta restaurants, and Black Twitter is rejoicingÂ
LinkHeâs become so popular that when he gets food from restaurants he wants to review, he places takeout orders and has one of his family members pick the food up so he does not receive any type of special treatment in the process. He prides himself on paying for his own meals and delivering honest reviews that donât disparage restaurants even when the service is poor.
He simply relays his personal experiences, and all 14.2 million of his followers pay attention.
Knowing all of this, you would think Atlanta restaurants would have been on their A-game when he showed up in town, but this was not the case for two of the more popular joints â Old Lady Gang, a restaurant owned by singer, actress, and reality television star Kandi Burruss, as well as The Real Milk & Honey â received incredibly polite but bad reviews from Lee.
Keith Lee exposes the bad hospitality at Atlanta restaurants, and Black Twitter is rejoicingÂ
Letâs argue. Do you prefer sweet or savory grits?
LinkI personally put garlic salt, pepper, and cheese in my grits. I use different cheeses depending on the mood Iâm in. On regular days, itâs mild cheddar cheese, but when Iâm feeling fancy, I may go with fresh parmesan, smoked gouda or even Gruyere.
The Bahamians in the audience will tell you that you have not lived until youâve experienced boiled fish (grouper) and grits for breakfast. There was a time when tourists in Nassau had to get up super early if they wanted to partake in this traditional island breakfast because it would sell out quickly â most days before 10 a.m.
Thereâs also shrimp and grits, and I say this knowing that all shrimp and grits are not created equal, but if you find someone who really knows what they are doing in the kitchen and they make the grits creamy, the shrimp tender and delicious, and the sauce not too runny, go with that person. This is a delicacy.
Letâs argue. Do you prefer sweet or savory grits?
Candy corn is delicious, and Iâm not going to argue with you about it
LinkThere are other candy corn haters out there. They reveal themselves every year at this time, tagging me in posts across social media platforms to poke fun at me and otherwise taunt me about my love for what some of them have called âthe devilâs ear wax.â
I donât listen to those people.
I am a candy corn lover, and I always will be. It tastes good; it satisfies my sweet tooth, and itâs something that I look forward to enjoying every fall. Absolutely no one is going to take that away from me.
Candy corn is delicious, and Iâm not going to argue with you about it
Dear Will and Jada, please take us out of the group chat
LinkJada Pinkett Smith has a new book, called Worthy, out Tuesday, and it is important that we keep that in mind as the internet once again takes in the latest inflammatory statements made by the actress and wife.
In a clip from an NBC interview with Hoda Kotb, Pinkett Smith revealed that she and husband, actor Will Smith, have been separated since 2016, though the couple has no plans to divorce.
âI made a promise that there will never be a reason for us to get a divorce. We will work through whatever,â Pinkett Smith told Kotb. âAnd I just havenât been able to break that promise.â
However, she said, âI think by the time we got to 2016, we were both just exhausted with trying. I think we were both kind of still stuck in our fantasy of what we thought the other person should be.â
The Smiths have been making headlines for years, and thereâs no need to rehash everything that has gone down between them because a) thereâs too much of it, and b) there are enough stories out there that simply typing their names into Google will give you all the tea you can sip.Â
Dear Will and Jada, please take us out of the group chat
Move over, Oprah. BeyoncĂŠ is now the most powerful Black woman in the world
LinkWhen the Queen puts on a spectacle like the Renaissance tour, it is expected that those in attendance are going to dress accordingly, and the fans understood the assignment. They spent money, hunty, and the looks were out there. People traveled to different cities to see her, buying airfare and spending money on hotel rooms across the globe.
This isnât just about ticket sales.
Itâs about the impact of a woman who has carved out a lane for herself where she stands tall and no one is even coming close to what she is accomplishing, regardless of the way the Recording Academy continues to play in her face every single chance they get.
Move over, Oprah. BeyoncĂŠ is now the most powerful Black woman in the world
When it comes to Black homeownership, these people are keeping it in the family
LinkIn 2021, the Black homeownership rate in LA was 33.5%, according to the U.S. Census, the 124th lowest among metropolitan areas in America. At the same time, 58% of white households in the LA metro area owned homes. Besides a legacy of discriminatory housing practices and policies that historically prevented Black families from buying homes and building generational wealth, the National Association of Real Estate Brokers said, the ability to come up with the 20% down payment required to buy a home with a conventional mortgage is also an impediment.
In short, Black people often make enough money to pay a house note, but they lack the ability to build enough savings to make a down payment.
The high housing costs arenât unique to big cities. In the 2023 Snapshot of Race and Home Buying in America, the National Association of Realtors Research Group said ârising mortgage rates and home prices significantly hurt affordability, forcing many buyers out of the market.â The report stated mortgage rates have doubled since the previous year and housing prices have reached an all-time high.
When it comes to Black homeownership, these people are keeping it in the family
Dianne Feinstein, Mitch McConnell, and the way old white people refuse to relinquish power
LinkAs far as Blackness in the U.S. Senate, there have only been 11 Black senators; Butler will be the 12th. She will be the third Black woman to serve in the U.S. Senate.
I think you get the picture. While we are actively contributing members of the U.S., we are not represented in a way that honors that.
Sounds about white.
So when someone like Feinstein remains in office well past their expiration date, we are robbed of the opportunity to put new blood in with the old. We canât inject fresh ideas into our government because the old ideas have the government in a chokehold.Â
And while we may have never seen Dianne Feinstein short circuit on national television the way we have with Mitch McConnell, the point still remains. Putting them in a bowl of rice every time is not the answer; electing new people to get the job done is.Â
Dianne Feinstein, Mitch McConnell, and the way old white people refuse to relinquish power
Eboni K. Williams had a good point, but a lot of people missed it
LinkIf we contrast this conversation with the conversation we had last week about Tyler Perry, what Eboni and Dr. Bean are saying makes a lot of sense.
People were upset with Tyler Perry for saying Black women should settle for âstruggle love,â but they are also upset with Eboni for saying Black women who achieve success have a harder time finding mates who meet their standards as they get older.
Eboni is not lying.
In my friend circle, all of us are successful in our careers, make above a certain amount of money, and live a lifestyle we have built for ourselves and become greatly accustomed to. In my immediate circle, none of us have ever been married.
Eboni K. Williams had a good point, but a lot of people missed it
No matter how high we climb, white people will find a way to put us in our âplaceâ
“The party took place in the garden of the Forest Hills home of Dr. Duroseau and Claude, and the guests were all Black or Latino except for one person.
“According to the lawsuit, as the party was coming to an end, a white woman walked into the Duroseau home uninvited with a âlarge, menacing German Shepherdâ and demanded they turn the music down. Duroseau told her they were having a birthday party and that it was wrapping up soon. He asked her to leave and went back to the backyard where guests continued to socialize.
“Thatâs when another white neighbor, a man identified as 48-year-old Marcus Rosebrock, decided to turn his water hose on the partygoers to make them leave.”
No matter how high we climb, white people will find a way to put us in our âplaceâ
Pumpkin is a lie! Sweet potato is THAT pie.
LinkSweet potato pie is delicious. It is diabetes in a pie tin. It is full of sugary goodness and the full texture of sweet potatoes that hang around on your tongue and fill your soul with light.
The texture of sweet potato is stronger than the texture of pumpkin pie, and thatâs probably because sweet potato pie had to fight all its life to not be mistaken for itâs lesser companion. Sweet potato pie stands out; pumpkin pie does not.
There are Black women and men everywhere who are known for their sweet potato pies. My cousin Shaun, for instance, makes a bomb sweet potato pie. I also make a great sweet potato pie, and I do mine with a buttery graham cracker crust, and that flavor profile is top notch, baby.
Pumpkin is a lie! Sweet potato is THAT pie.
Angelica Rossâ experience proves Black women donât have allies in the workplace
LinkThere are people who would call these âmicroaggressions,â and I want all of us to stop using that word because it minimizes the impact of these things when they happen, and because they happen so frequently, they are no longer âmicro.â They are macro AF.
Angelica is yet another Black woman having to advocate for herself in the workplace because, in the workplace, Black women have no allies.
Everyone wants to smile in our faces and call us âgirlfriendâ and say things like âYassssssssssssssâ and âYou go, girl!â as they snap their fingers and roll their necks in a mockery of our aesthetic, but at the end of the day, when it really matters, they are silent.
Angelica Rossâ experience proves Black women donât have allies in the workplace
Black women across social media are tired of Tyler Perryâs relationship âadviceâ
LinkIt was this next part that essentially set the internet on fire.
âSo, if you can find love, if that man works â you know â at whatever job and is a good man and is good to you and honors the house and honors his wife and does what he can because his gift may not be your gift,â Perry said.
âThat is OK,â he continued. âThatâs not somebody whoâs beneath you; thatâs somebody who came to love you at your worth, right? And as long as heâs secure in himself to know that âYep, she makes most of the money; all I can pay is the light bill,â as long as sheâs comfortable enough to say, âIâm going to cover the mortgage and all of the other stuff; you handle the light bill, baby. You can take me to dinner every now and then,â that is fine.â
Black women across social media are tired of Tyler Perryâs relationship âadviceâ
Jann Wenner is an example of why Black media matters
LinkIf we leave it up to white men like Jann Wenner, Black stories wonât ever get told.
Jann Wenner is the Ron DeSantis of music journalism. He would rather erase all the voices that arenât white and male than admit that anyone else contributed anything to a culture he is directly benefiting from.
Jann Wenner is an example of why Black media matters
White Principal Blames Black Teacher For Assembly That Singled Out Black Students For Low Test Scores
LinkThis is a story about Florida.
Iâve written before about the anti-Blackness being fostered in the Sunshine State; their governor, Ron DeSantis, is leading the charge by legislating anti-Black racism and all other kinds of bigotry in the state.
It is especially egregious when anti-Blackness is targeted at innocent Black children.
Let me explain.
In case you missed it for whatever reason, Bunnell Elementary School in Flagler County, Florida â a school district already notorious for their low test scores â pulled all of its Black fourth and fifth graders into an assembly late last month where they were shown a PowerPoint presentation that blamed them for the schoolâs low scores on state standardized tests.
The children were told that if they didnât bring the test scores up, they would likely end up in jail, dead, or shot to death.
Never mind that Black students make up only 14% of the student population at Bunnell. In a school where white students make up 60% of the student body, only 32% of students are meeting or exceeding the required measurements on state assessments. That ainât the Black kidsâ fault.
These details didnât matter, however, as even Black students who were meeting or exceeding the metrics were pulled into the assembly.
No other students in the school were made to attend such a presentation or spoken to about the low test scores.
It was racist, and itâs OK for us to call it racist. To not acknowledge the inherent racism and implicit bias in this incident is to spit in the faces of the Black children who endured this injustice.
Parents of the Black students said their children were traumatized by the assembly â especially the part where they were told they would be âshot deadâ if their scores didnât improve.
White Principal Blames Black Teacher For Assembly That Singled Out Black Students For Low Test Scores
Black Twitter is up in arms over Deltaâs changes to its loyalty program, and itâs hilarious
LinkIn case you missed it, Delta Airlines made drastic changes to both the way you earn points in its loyalty program and who can access its Sky Club airport lounge.Â
To sum it up, certain American Express Platinum cardholders who enjoyed unlimited access to the airport lounges while flying Delta will now be limited to six visits per year and the co-branded Amex Delta Reserve cardholders will be limited to 10 visits per year. Both sets of cardholders will be able to unlock unlimited access by spending $75,000 on their cards within a single calendar year.
Black Twitter is up in arms over Deltaâs changes to its loyalty program, and itâs hilarious
Shoplifting is not a capital offense, but TaâKiya Young died for it
LinkA police officer who had only been in her presence for 12 seconds shot and killed her.
He didnât know her name. He didnât know she was pregnant and due to have a baby girl in two months. He didnât know she had previously been accused of petty crimes. He didnât even know if she had actually stolen any liquor.
In the moment he pulled his gun on TaâKiya Young while yelling for her to get out of her car, all he knew was she had been accused of stealing from a grocery store, and he decided that was enough to warrant aggressively pulling a gun on her and threatening her life â a life he eventually took.Â
Shoplifting is not a capital offense, but TaâKiya Young died for it
Black women have been holding it down for America at the U.S. Open, but when has America held them down?
LinkBefore Gauff, the last three American U.S. Open champions were Black women â Venus Williams, Serena Williams and Sloane Stephens. And now, add Coco Gauff to that list.
Black women have been holding it down for America at the U.S. Open, but when has America held them down?
Itâs worth noting that the Williams sisters have multiple wins between them in that 20-year span.
People keep mistakenly bringing up Naomi Osaka in this discussion, and Iâd like to note that while we also celebrate her Black Girl Magic as well, Naomi plays for Japan when she competes, not the United States, and in this discussion, we are referencing U.S. winners.
Itâs safer to be a neo-Nazi in Florida than it is to be Black or LGBTQ+
LinkIn the same press release, which denounced the demonstrations for the bigoted hate parades that they were, the ADL said another demonstration took place later that same day. The two extremist groups involved in that hate gathering were identified as the Goyim Defense League (GDL) and Blood Tribe (BT). The second âdemonstration,â which the participants called the âMarch of the Redshirts,â included 51 people â all of whom were wearing red shirts, black masks and black pants. They carried swastika flags, performed Hitler salutes and yelled things like âwhite powerâ and âJews will not replace us.â
USA Today reports that some of those involved in the demonstrations displayed messaging in support of Ron DeSantis, their resident bigot-in-chief.Â
Some Florida lawmakers have come out to denounce the demonstrations, but you know who has yet to say anything about them?Â
Ron DeSantis.
Through his words and legislative actions, DeSantis has created an environment where bigotry feels free to walk proudly in neon clothing out in the open. It doesnât have to hide under the white hoods and sheets of yesteryear. It can show its face proudly because the highest-ranking member of the state government has given bigots a pass to do what they want.
Itâs safer to be a neo-Nazi in Florida than it is to be Black or LGBTQ+
Police shot and killed TaâKiya Young and her unborn daughter. Now theyâre playing the âvictim.â
LinkThe police in Blendon Township, Ohio, are already hard at work building a case for victim-blaming and making TaâKiya Young responsible for her own death while simultaneously framing the cop who killed her and her unborn daughter as the victim.
Before we even knew the details of what happened during that Aug. 24 shooting and well before the release of police bodycam footage on Friday, the Columbus Dispatch had already given us a synopsis of TaâKiyaâs life story, including the fact that she was a teenage mother to two sons, 6-year-old JaâKobie and 3-year-old JaâKenli. At the time she was killed, TaâKiya was seven months pregnant with her third child, a girl who was due to be born in November.Â
The Dispatch made sure to mention TaâKiya Young had some minor criminal infractions in her past and that on the day she died, the grandmother who raised her had called the police on her to report her for violating a protection order, and a misdemeanor charge was filed against TaâKiya.
None of that matters in the context of the police officer shooting and killing her, but we are being fed this information anyway because whenever a Black person is the victim of an extrajudicial killing by a police officer, there is an immediate rush to dehumanize them and make them less sympathetic in the eyes of the public.
The fact is, the police didnât know anything about TaâKiya Young when they approached her to follow up on an accusation made by a Kroger employee that Young had shoplifted alcohol from the store.
Police shot and killed TaâKiya Young and her unborn daughter. Now theyâre playing the âvictim.â
Stop trying to whitesplain Black womenâs experience in America
LinkIn other words, white people love to come around and whitesplain the Black experience to Black people even though they have never been Black a day in their lives, and judging from the way their fragility and thin skin erupt into irrational outbursts on the internet, Iâm going to guess they have neither the mental nor the intestinal fortitude to survive even one day in a Black experience.
White people donât understand the inanity of having your tone policed when you are speaking up for yourselves in a situation when the power dynamic of race comes into play. They donât understand that in situations like what Coco went through, you have to adapt to the sensitivities of the white person you are addressing even as they are trampling over yours with no regard. They canât imagine a world where everything you do is viewed through the lens of you being Black and how that lens is clouded with the smudges of implicit bias, systemic racism and white privilege.
In fact, it is white privilege that thrusts them into the position of thinking they can speak with authority and tell us how we are misunderstanding something that happened to us and not them.
Stop trying to whitesplain Black womenâs experience in America
Coco Gauff advocated for herself in the workplace, so of course, a white woman cried
LinkWhen Gauff drew this to the umpireâs attention, and in a now-viral video, we can see them going back and forth as the umpire tells Gauff that she plays âvery quickâ while her opponent plays âslow,â and Gauff corrects her and says she plays at a ânormal, medium pace.â
Coco Gauff advocated for herself in the workplace, so of course, a white woman cried
Both the crowd observing the match as well as the ESPN commentators agreed with Gauff, and her statements to the umpire were met with loud applause.
As ESPN reports, the crowd began watching the clock and yelling âtimerâ every time Siegemund was slow to be ready for the next serve, and when she later had her own exchange with the umpire, the crowd booed her.
In honor of Michael Jacksonâs 65th birthday, here are some facts you need to know about him
LinkQuickly and without using Google, tell me who else performed at the Motown 25 celebration that aired on NBC on May 16, 1983.
You canât, and do you know why you canât?
You canât because the only thing anyone remembers is Michael Jackson performing Billie Jean and doing the moonwalk for the first time on national television.Â
I got chills just typing that.
I was two months shy of my 12th birthday. We were watching that special as a family, and because it was such a big deal, we were watching it on the big floor model television in our sunken living room instead of on the smaller television in the family room where my parents usually made us kids watch TV.
In honor of Michael Jacksonâs 65th birthday, here are some facts you need to know about him
Ron DeSantis Makes It OK To Be Anti-Black In Florida
LinkWhite people frequently tell us that we âmake everything about race.â
Ron DeSantis Makes It OK To Be Anti-Black In Florida
They use it like some sort of âgotcha!â to derail any type of discussion on race, racism, or racial justice.
Never mind that the entire construct of race was conceptualized by white people in order to make themselves âsuperiorâ over everyone else.
They donât want to talk about that part. Instead, they would rather use a twisted form of DARVO to make a villain out of anyone who brings up racism, white supremacy, white privilege, or whiteness. In their eyes, the problem isnât racism, white supremacy, white privilege or whiteness; the problem is that we âdarkiesâ wonât stop talking about it.
Their skin is so thin, and their egos are so fragile, that they have to legislate not talking truthfully about race and racism in order to create an environment where whiteness, white supremacy, and racism can exist and thrive unchecked.
On âAnd Just Like That,â Black and brown characters are little more than props
LinkAs a young writer, I imagined myself as a Black Carrie Bradshaw, and I aspired to live comfortably while only working as a writer and not having to have a day job. I mean, who wouldnât want a cute apartment in a bustling city, a fabulous wardrobe, an impeccable shoe collection, and a group of amazing and equally successful women who poured into me, listened to me whine about men, and could relate?
The only problem? I didnât really see a reflection of myself in those characters. Yes, I shared traits with both Carrie, played by Sarah Jessica Parker (writer! clothes lover! shoe collector!), and Samantha Jones (Kim Cattrall), who was sexually liberated and unapologetically herself at all times. But I couldnât see myself in those women. It wasnât just that Iâm not a prim and proper prude like Charlotte York (Kristin Davis) or an awkward neurotic who is all over the place like Miranda Hobbes (Cynthia Nixon). Iâm not white.
On âAnd Just Like That,â Black and brown characters are little more than props
Whiteness does not care about the comfort or education of Black students
LinkLast Friday, the school singled out all of its Black fourth and fifth graders and pulled them into an assembly where they were held responsible for the schoolâs low test scores.
AÂ PowerPoint presentation, titled âAA Presentation,â was shown to the students. The presentation itself contained typos and errors, and the irony of that is making me constipated because how are you going to create an entire assembly to shame Black children for the failures of the system (of whiteness) when you donât even have it together enough to proofread said presentation? Yâall are just sloppy all around.
It identified Black students as âthe problemâ in low test scores because they âhave underperform [sic] on standardized assessment for the past three years.â It notes that the school only has 32% of its students who are where they need to be when it should have 41%.
It then tasks the students with committing to getting themselves up to where they need to be on the standardized tests; passing all their curriculum-based assessments with a 75% or higher, and committing to âmaintaining high iReady scores within their individual track.â
There were no bullet points in the presentation that detailed how the school was going to help the Black children keep these commitments.
Whiteness does not care about the comfort or education of Black students
Elon Musk wants to remove the âblockâ button on X, formerly known as Twitter. That would be a huge mistake.
LinkIn May, after I wrote extensively about the Citi Bike Karen incident, I was doxxed repeatedly, and when I reported a few of the accounts on Twitter, I got a response back saying they had found no violation in the personâs tweets.
Iâm not the only one.
Black women are targeted for abuse daily on the app as are members of the trans community and the LGBTQIA+ community at large. Racists, Trumpers and everyone in between look for every opportunity to try and make someone elseâs day miserable. I spend a lot of time blocking accounts in order to protect my peace.
Marginalized communities already face an onslaught of abuse on Twitter, and with this latest decision, Musk is proving that he doesnât care.
It is highly likely that his desire to remove the ability to block people is directly tied to people blocking him (it obviously hurts his little feelings that no one cares to read what he has to say) and a large-scale campaign to block Twitter Blue users who pay to have their tweets prioritized over everyone else.
And since the introduction of tweet monetization for that same user base, the rage farming has increased as blue checkmark accounts try to incite people into engaging with their content so that they may suck at the teat that is Twitterâs ad revenue â or so Elon has promised them.
Elon Musk wants to remove the âblockâ button on X, formerly known as Twitter. That would be a huge mistake.
Edward Blum, the man who targeted affirmative action, says he wants equality, but his actions are anti-Black
LinkIt wasnât his first time trying this lawsuit. He did it before in 2012 with a white girl, Abigail Fisher, who didnât get into the University of Texas. That case flopped, and Blum obviously set out to find a more sympathetic face to use for his cause.
Blum was also the architect behind Shelby County v. Holder, the Supreme Court case that essentially dismantled the Voting Rights Act.
Blum recently filed a new lawsuit in Atlanta that targets Fearless Fund, a venture capital firm that provides $20,000 grants to Black women who run businesses.
Edward Blum, the man who targeted affirmative action, says he wants equality, but his actions are anti-Black